Ah, Marriage

I could not locate one of my in-laws. The one I've seen, my mother in law looks similar (with shorter hair I think)  As for my father in law, remove the glasses and Rollie Fingers mustache and add a pageboy hair cut/white guy afro and you're about there. 

This year my parents will have been married 35 years, my in laws 37, and Tia and I for 3.  As anyone who has been married for any length of time will tell, it ain't easy. You're trying to merge your two lives together while maintaining them separately as well.  Some times you fight and you don't even know why.  The filters are off, whatever you think and feel is going to come out.  There is no one on the planet you love more; there is no one on the planet who drives you more insane.  

To that end, Tia and I have been having couples therapy.  Now don't panic! We are not on the verge of a trial separation or anything of the like.  We didn't wait until things had gotten to a boiling point.  We've gone for it early on to nip it in the bud ASAP. A preventative strike if you will.  Our therapist has helped us get to issues in their beginnings; finding where things come from, etc.  

He pointed out this past week that we are doing things the right way instead of the easy way.  The easy way being anger.  You need to go after the hurt that is fueling it.  It happens when two imperfect people are honest with each other.  It's all worth it though, every bit of it.